Tonight around dinner time, my wife told my 12-year-old daughter to do something – something both of us knew she wouldn't be excited about doing. My daughter responded sarcastically, as she often does. I quickly interjected, pointing out to my daughter (in front of her mom) that she was asking for trouble – even though I understood where she was coming from.
Alone with my daughter, I said that it might be helpful if she thought about things the following way: In her mind, she was a rock star. She could think whatever asshole things she wanted. In her mind, no rules applied. But in her words and actions, she should be a politician. Be diplomatic and disciplined and controlled. I said that if she kept this in mind, she’d find that things would generally work out in a way that served her best interests.
I’d like to get your thoughts on my advice to my daughter.