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#36288 - 03/12/10 10:38 PM I want to know if anyone has any regrets?
exadust Offline
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I like to see how people view their lives! It's interesting to listen to some people's excuses and how they justify their actions in certain situations. For me my only regret is trying to be acceptable to my family, I see that they only wanted to control me because no one else could, and I let them because at that time I thought that I owed them something!

If anyone would like to share feel free!!!!
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#36289 - 03/12/10 10:50 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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Everything I've done has led me to be the man I am today. I love myself, therefore, I regret nothing I've done in my past. Every action I've taken has had an impact on me and has changed the direction my life has taken me thus far, and I would not change that at all. To do so would be to fundamentally change who I am.

I have no regrets.

"What, if some day or night a demon were to steal after you into your loneliest loneliness and say to you: "This life as you now live it and have lived it, you will have to live once more and innumerable times more; and there will be nothing new in it, but every pain and every joy and every thought and sigh and everything unutterably small or great in your life will have to return to you, all in the same succession and sequence - even this spider and this moonlight between the trees, and even this moment and I myself. The eternal hourglass of existence is turned upside down again and again, and you with it, speck of dust!" Would you not throw yourself down and gnash your teeth and curse the demon who spoke thus?... Or how well disposed would you have to become to yourself and to life to crave nothing more fervently than this ultimate eternal confirmation and seal?" - Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science


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#36290 - 03/12/10 11:09 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Vlad]
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Thank you for your response! I think that if it were possible to change something it wouldn't change me because everything that has happened in my life has happened because I allowed it! I've always been me I've just lost perspective from time to time! Situations do not mold me. I mold situations!
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#36299 - 03/13/10 04:16 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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Every action you carry out results in an outcome. Whether you are pleased with the outcome or not you'll have been made wiser from the experience. Feeling regret indicates that you have gained knowledge. Regret comes from realization.
Therefore, I don't see regret (necessarily) as a bad thing.
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#36300 - 03/13/10 04:43 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Wake]
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I don't really have large regrets. All of the dumb ass mistakes have led me to who I am today. I figure if I regretted those mistakes it doesn't really matter. I am pretty sure I would simply make other ones in there stead.
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#36314 - 03/13/10 11:46 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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Regrets for me are an interesting thing; most people would prefer to forget them. I remember my Regrets and try to learn from them, they are like the scars on my body each one has a story each one could have been avoided. But they werenít avoided they are there and they wont fade, the only logical thing to do is to learn from them and not repeat the mistakes that caused me pain.
In my opinion everyone should have at least a few regrets in there life, with out regrets and pain we can not learn or grow and with out conflict we lead meaningless lives.
I have only a few very painful regrets that I have made peace with, however with all due respect they are my business.
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#36317 - 03/13/10 01:31 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Ruwan]
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As a middle-aged person \:\) I've done a life-assessment quite recently and, if I wanted to dwell on them, I could come up with quite a few things to regret right now. However . . . that would mean I'd now be a different person in a different physical and mental environment (presumably) and, as this is the only Me I know (and like) I can't be bothered playing with regret.
Incidentally - and this is the truth - the major regret that has been the major causal factor of many others - would have to be of being too damn nice to people who weren't worth the energy.
I don't do that now. ;\)
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#36442 - 03/14/10 07:55 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: felixgarnet]
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No regrets, I learn from mistakes I make. I don't care too much how others see me. Then again, I'm still 20 so I have many years ahead of me, alot more time to make mistakes.
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#36445 - 03/14/10 08:47 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Babylonian Dream]
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There are things I wished I would have done differently, but you shouldn't get hung up too much on your mistakes. Well, other than to learn from them of course.
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#36491 - 03/15/10 07:22 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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The thing about life is that you "live and learn, and crash and burn".

Basically for the most part everything I do is intentional.
Personally I never apologize for anything. I don't use the phrase " I'm sorry". That phrase means nothing because if someone were truely "sorry" they wouldn't do whatever it was they did.

The main reason for this topic was to see the what responses came out.

"Sorry" for the deception but that's just me!!!!!!
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#36505 - 03/16/10 01:59 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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I've heard that phrase a lot and I used to believe it. But looking back, there's definitely decisions I wish I made differently. I think what people mean when they say they have no regrets is that they don't dwell on the past. Sometimes the people who claim they live how they wish with no regrets are the people who just don't want to acknowledge bad decisions. In their case, it may benefit them to dwell in the past a little longer before jumping to the next rash decision.
I apologize to people when I feel I've made a mistake and wish to repair the damage I've done to our relationship. I treat it as a promise though, that I won't repeat the same mistake. Mostly, however, I don't regret what I've done and one can avoid regrets by thinking carefully about what they do and keeping their values and goals in mind.

For many people, they do overuse the words "I'm sorry." But it's up to the individual to not tolerate those people in their life.

If I could go back and live my life again, I would definitely do it differently, if I had knowledge of how I lived it the first time. There's definitely things I could have done that would outweigh what I learned, how can I say there's not? I definitely would have told my parents I was depressed years before I did. Why waste all that time again being miserable? Sure everything has a lesson to be learned, but everything has a cost. Maybe I'd do it all different just to experience a different side of life. It would be great. At the very least I would be more confident with girls and not so nervous. Lol.
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#36522 - 03/16/10 07:10 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: SkaffenAmtiskaw]
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Someone once pointed out to me that whatever you've done in yur life was exactly what you wanted to do at the time, whether it was nicking that penny chew from the corner shop or going to university. So regrets are pointless. Most people who have posted on here have said exactly the same thing in a different way.

It's not entirely true, though. Some of the things I did, I did because I was under pressure from my family or employers when I was too young and dumb to know how to say "no". Even so, you live and learn.

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#36537 - 03/16/10 12:01 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Deckar]
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Most people seem to mention how they approach their regrets or past mistakes; learn from them, but do not dwell, and keep moving forward. Generally that's my rational conclusion, although admittedly I am weak when it comes to applying it. On the one hand I am very grateful for the lessons I've learned from the mistakes I've made, but on the other it's a pain trying to pick up the pieces.

I actually can think of quite a few concrete ones I would list:

Granted, I don't suspect anyone here doesn't know this already. I'm not so much advising anyone else as reminding myself what I've learned. You can get a fair idea of what my regrets were by gauging what I learned from them.


1) Bad relationships: WHOA boy. I guess I had a Disneyesque fairy tale understanding of how love works, with soulmates and eternal devotion and the whole nine yards. That stuff is poison, I would never want my kid to grow up believing in love at first sight, first kiss, or happily ever after. I learned a few very valuable things, though:
--Early in life, relationships are uncertain. Invest more in your OWN future than in a relationship that may or may not last.
--Loyalty in a woman is romanticized in our culture, but I learned the hard way that loyalty, like pride, is only as valuable as the object it is directed towards. Strong loyalty to a worthless man is worthless.
--Be a little selfish with sex and finances. Don't give everything without expecting anything back; you'll get exactly what you signed on for.

2) Bad schoolwork: All but two of the semesters I spent in school averaged a 3.0 GPA or higher. But those two semesters dragged me down considerably, and I will have some explaining to do when I apply for law school. I learned a lot about time management and realistic assessments of my own capabilities. I also learned, as stated before, investing in my own future comes before concerns about my personal life and relationships.

3) Nice guys finish last: The single Satanic statement that impacted me the most was responsibility to the responsible. I was way too generous and I crippled myself with pity for others. Always make sure to look out for #1; look out for others only so far as you can reasonably expect reciprocation. I took altruism to an extreme, in my personal relationships, my politics, and my lifestyle. And I got jack to show for it. The world is not a better place and I am much worse off.

4) Take good care of yourself. Don't put other concerns before your health and personal welfare; you will lessen your capacity to work if you drive yourself too hard. I still often act like I'm a superwoman who doesn't need to sleep, and it always messes me up. I am currently working off a lot of weight I slowly put on with grease and sugar. I could have saved myself a lot of trouble by eating right and exercising regularly in the first place.

If I could go back in time and talk to myself, I'd essentially say: "Be more sensible. Focus on the long term. Don't get distracted or lose sight of your goal. And form reasonable expectations; don't blow your efforts on pipe dreams."
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#36543 - 03/16/10 12:32 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Vlad]
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 Originally Posted By: Vlad
Everything I've done has led me to be the man I am today. I love myself, therefore, I regret nothing I've done in my past. Every action I've taken has had an impact on me and has changed the direction my life has taken me thus far, and I would not change that at all. To do so would be to fundamentally change who I am.


This pretty much sums it up for me as well. As humans we will all make mistakes but if we didn't make those mistakes we would never grow. I have done things that I eventually felt sorry for and even wished I could go back and undo them but at the same time I am quite happy with where I am in my life. There is no telling where I would be now had I done things differently.

Dwelling on the past is no way to live; everyone stumbles now and then and all one can do is regain their balance and keep moving forward.
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#36544 - 03/16/10 12:34 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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There are many things I wish Iíd done differently. One thing Iím reminded of on a daily basis is taking out student loans. Granted, it has taught me a valuable lesson about borrowing money. Still, Iíd gladly give back my masterís degree to be out of debt.

Thereís a couple things I keep in mind regarding regrets. First, I can't undo the past. Therefore, itís pointless to beat myself up for it. Second, if I learn from my mistakes and use them to make better decisions in the future, then Iíve given my mistakes worth.

Looking back, Iíve made so many laughably bad decisions that itís a wonder Iím in my own home with my health and my family, sitting here writing this. But here I am, determined to make the most of ALL my decisions. Thatís what growth is all about.
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#36618 - 03/17/10 02:42 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: William Wright]
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I find that reexamining past decisions is helpful to understand why I made a bad decision and what was going on inside my head that lead me through certain lines of thinking. i try to look at bad decisions that didn't turn out badly as well as ones that did. That way at least I won't make the same mistake and have to suffer for it. Ignoring the past and being overconfident will not help me move forward, but rather make me repeat mistakes and get nowhere.
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#37447 - 04/08/10 01:55 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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I'm approximately three replies into this thread and can see already that it's a bullshit thread.

Not everything in a person's live is within their control.

I have one regret - and it's because I hurt someone whom I respected above all others, someone who molded the best part of me - aside from that doesn't matter.

all that aside: you only control a portion of your life. the rest of it you have to learn how to handle. Only an idiot believes that he has mastered the world and has nothing left to learn.

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#37448 - 04/08/10 02:31 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: ceruleansteel]
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I guess I don't know at what point in between "Should have remembered my keys" and "Should have had an abortion" where something is not just an afterthought but a REGRET(dun dun Duuuuuh! *dramatic lighting strike*)

I don't regret any of my major life choices. I've done a lot of things I'm sure people think I should regret or think I'm denial about but I've made damn good decisions.

As a teenager I dropped out of highschool and got a GED instead and regardless of what everyone else seems to think that was a very good decision and I would encourage ANY teenager in the US education system to do the same. BUT I don't pretend I'm some wise man to teach you the ways of life.

I gave up a steady job and cheap place to live to be with a woman I know I'll be with for the rest of my life and I certainly don't regret that. BUT I'm not a hopeless romantic or a believer in disney love. I just know that we're two intelligent people that fill eachother's lives and we have no will to be apart.

I said the cold honest truth to a weak man with a small chain and had my front teeth broken out. If I could turn back time I wouldn't change a thing about that night. BUT I don't pretend like I'm some hard badass who doesn't care about pain. If anything I'm a MAAAAJOR pussy when it comes to that kind of thing. I'm a guy who said what needed to be said and took the consequences for it.


But to say I have no regrets? Hell I regret ordering the mcdouble instead of the mchicken sometimes. I regret getting fast food at all when I'm a bit strapped for cash. I've not reached the end of some kind of spiritual journey or such nonsense. I'm a guy in a decent position with the same gripes and worries as anybody else in this situation. Still learning as much as I care to to be happy and get by.

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#37472 - 04/09/10 05:03 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: TV is God]
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My major regret in life is not fucking an 18 year old German girl called Gill. I havenít a clue how that one slipped my bye, but it HAUNTS me...

A tad carnalistic and maybe a bit childish, but none the less it makes me wince when I think of it.
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#37477 - 04/09/10 07:22 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Room 101]
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 Originally Posted By: Wake
Every action you carry out results in an outcome. Whether you are pleased with the outcome or not you'll have been made wiser from the experience. Feeling regret indicates that you have gained knowledge. Regret comes from realization.
Therefore, I don't see regret (necessarily) as a bad thing.


This is roughly the opposite of my point of view! \:D

Regret does not come from realization, it's rather the opposite: realization is the cure to regret.

Regret is associated with guilty. I do think this is caused by RHP views.

I come back to the initial post:
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I like to see how people view their lives! It's interesting to listen to some people's excuses and how they justify their actions in certain situations. For me my only regret is trying to be acceptable to my family,


25 years ago I started fucking my life with drugs probably because I surrendered to values which weren't mines but those of my family. After 3 years of madness, addicted to hero, I had the courage to stop it, to expose the hard reality which was mine to my family. And what did I get for this act of courage? Punishment! My mother made me feel guilty showing how bad I was to have hurt her. In big troubles and seeking for a sense to give to my life I read the bible (the white one) and it "touched" me. I went in repentance and probably felt regret as few experienced it. I was feeling miserable and I didn't know how I could be forgiven.
I do not regret this because it gave me some strength to move forward and even if it wasn't in the right direction, I started to act rather than to undergo.
I finally stepped out of Christianity because I realized it wasn't making me happy, I just didn't felt alive!

I started to rationally trying to understand what happened to me. It took me some time for realizing that I had to choose between living by my own values or living by those of my family for being acceptable. I came to the conclusion that I selfishly wanted to live. I decided to live by my values. I now clearly understand what happened to me and I'm very proud of me.
As a reward I now feel really alive as I never been before.

I expelled guilty, regret and other RHP schemes of thoughts out of my mind cultivating courage, pride, ambition, selfishness and self-commitment. I experience how good I can be in day to day battles of my life when I just think coldly.
I enjoy the fruits of my victories; it's my well merited reward.

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#37761 - 04/17/10 10:07 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Fabiano]
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though not necessary in my opinion, I do consider regret to be a building block in life. on many occasions where I regretted something it taught me how to do things differently when and if those certain situations ended up doing a repeat. for instance, I grew up in a very rough place, through regret I learned how to defend myself, both mentally and physically. not speaking for anyone else but myself, but through regret learned about my own self-preservation. what I regret is not having taught myself about self-preservation at an earlier age. I could've used the knowledge I have now years ago, and if I did I wouldn't have lost certain people in my life I wish were still here.
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#37762 - 04/17/10 10:41 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Mardi Gras]
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I remember years ago when I was just a young lad of 18 I had my first job.

Like a fool I went to the pub across the road from work with my colleagues and proceeded to drink shots of tequila with only minimum alcohol experience.

After my third shot I thought Uh oh, I'm going to be sick and ignoring the toilet raced for the exit door.

I made it to the door and on my knees threw up on the shoes of an incoming person. When I looked up I found that I had just puked tequila all over my manager's shoes and he wasn't pleased!

I blame the tequila, I mean its crappy stuff really...

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#37765 - 04/18/10 12:24 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: ]
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HAHA that sucks MJ1
you didn't mention that he fired you, so at least he was partially understanding. If Room 101's comment wasn't sarcastic, it does remind me of times when I probably could have had a lot more fun but didn't. Alas, those times have past, and have only taught me to be more social in the future. Everybody learns sometime.

I do remember my first time drinking more than a shot of tequila, it was with a bunch of friends. I saw my buddy, a more experienced gentlemen of mexican descent, grab the bottle of silver tequila and swig it. Me, in pretending to be threatened by him being more "mexican" than me, decided to show I could do the same thing. I grabbed the bottle and took not one, not two, but Yes, THREE gulps of tequila at once. After one I knew I should stop, at two I knew I'd probably be ok, after three I immediately put it down and turned to the sink behind me. Good thing, cuz I was the first freshman to puke at the party. What a silly idiot. I learned. Don't mess with tequila, tequila won't mess with you.
It was still a great party and everyone was understanding, though I definitely deserved the laughs from the ladies I was trying to impress. Learning is best done in an understanding environment, at least in this case. No more stupid alcohol bs from me.

"Blame it on the Ah AH AH AH A Alcohol!"

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#37980 - 04/21/10 09:27 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Mardi Gras]
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I agree with Mardi, regret s a block that fucks with ur head and whats ahead of u. I think one makes decisions and what no matter what happends one must contineu, no looking back.... i have no regrets for the contrary I am glad i am what i am, i feel complete now \:\) alive! and i wish for everyone here to feel the same! love ya brothers and sisters! shemhamforash!

Edited by Vik (04/21/10 09:33 PM)

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#38155 - 04/28/10 03:06 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: 6Satan6Archist6]
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I have many regrets. Most of my regrets are ultimately due to my own lack of perception in earlier life. I can somewhat excuse this as I was "hoodwinked" from an early age but it doesn't stop me from kicking myself at times. Basically, I haven't lived my life so far as fully as I would have liked. At least that is changing.
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#38161 - 04/28/10 07:52 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Caliga]
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I have one regret: I should have started earlier, maybe i would have reached higher level by now. Yes, this is dangerous but it gives you power and control over yourself.
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#38164 - 04/28/10 12:35 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Eumendies]
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I do have regrets but the only major regret is related to a particular situation because it has continued to haunt me years after it went down. It has indeed had a bad effect on my life and it was a major thing for me.

Before this happened I was always thinking that I am happy with myself now and all things in my past made me who I am. Therefore I dont regret anything. Sadly I cant say the same at this moment. I am coming along and things are getting better. I am way better than I was 2 years ago. Maybe one day I can say that these years I am currently living through was worth it. At the moment I think I would have rather done things differently though.

It was all about how I choose to value things not realizing what I would loose making the descision I did.

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#38165 - 04/28/10 02:42 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: TheInsane]
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I thought about this one for a moment before developing a response to share.

I do. Indeed, there are many things I regret, but they are mainly lost oppurtunities. When it comes to my actions, truly, I regret nothing for they have molded me into the interesting person I am today. I will always regret however, the things in life I have missed out on.

Best suggestion form me is that even if you do have regrets, dont dwell on them. They are the past, so leave them as such.

Have a great day. \:\)
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#38166 - 04/28/10 03:50 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Demon Heretic666]
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 Originally Posted By: Demon Heretic666

Best suggestion form me is that even if you do have regrets, dont dwell on them. They are the past, so leave them as such.


Yes, don't dwell on it is the best advice. I know that all to well. And also use the regret as a fuel to the fire to get another chance or work yourself to a position you were in before so that if you really want something you may be able to achieve it even though it might have failed the first time around. And learn from your mistakes.

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#38167 - 04/28/10 04:14 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Demon Heretic666]
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I've been thinking about this one, and indeed I have many regrets. There are plenty of times when I found myself to not be as strong as I needed to be. Many times I should have enjoyed myself and simply didn't. I have not been nor am I today the man I wish to be, and I regret every action I make that proves that I am not.

I hold onto that regret too. I believe it makes me stronger. By not letting go of those things I force myself to not repeat these mistakes and each day I see myself become a better man. Regret is only a hindrance when one becomes obsessed with the desire to change the past, which is not possible. When the mind is focused on an impossible task, the individual becomes inactive. The more obsessed on the impossible one is, the more inactive they become. A being that does nothing might as well be nothing.

I'm simply not insane enough to obsess over impossible things, so I don't have to worry about that.
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#38300 - 05/05/10 01:05 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Lucifer Rising]
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I've been really torn between two sides in this subject recently. Until a week or so ago I've lived convinced I had no regrets. I can't change the past so why worry about it, you know? Since I discovered Satanism which wasn't long ago I started reading a lot. As bad as it sounds I've discovered I am a weak person but I have potential for recognizing it. Since I've started reading on a regular basis and developing my own opinions I've been able to believe in them enough to make significant changes. Picking up more hours at work and cutting back from over a pack to less than 5 cigarettes a day to name two.

So now when I think of regrets. I regret any weakness I've ever had. I don't feel sorry for myself or anything but I try harder to acknowledge error. If I can prevent my ego/pride from getting in the way then I can improve on every mistake.

I'm not saying I'm perfect at doing all this, but it's the mindset I will be perfect at eventually \:\)
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#38303 - 05/05/10 03:36 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Joshua Sprenkle]
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I want to change the question a bit:
If you had a chance to change your past, will you go into it knowing what will happen?
I know i do...
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#38308 - 05/05/10 05:54 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: SkaffenAmtiskaw]
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Nope. No changes. Even my mistakes gave me opportunities.
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#38309 - 05/05/10 06:19 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Eumendies]
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I would change nothing except two different moments in time. (Actually years apart)

Without going into details, I would have said yes instead of no.
Things would be quite different right now, and someone would still be alive.
Actually, two different people would still be alive.

What did I learn from the first mistake, I'm really a self-centered bitch.

What did I learn from that second mistake, I'm not a "good girl" and I should never try to be one.


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#38336 - 05/05/10 06:09 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Morgan]
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The only regret I have is not being more social. I'm still a loner, and I need to get over this shy-ness. Other than that, I can't regret anything--situations and experiences make us stronger over-all.
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#38345 - 05/06/10 07:55 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Kali]
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Regrets are a waste of time and energy...every experience makes us stronger and more resilient....did I mention wiser?? If you regret something then your conscience is getting the better of you. Be strong be proud and live and learn. Our errors only teach us what not to do next time..
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#38346 - 05/06/10 09:45 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Azzyra]
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I never regret anything that I do i can care less about what other people think.
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#38360 - 05/07/10 03:10 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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Getting my friend in trouble with her Mum and not kicking a fundie Christians teeth into the back of his head the other day when he was annoying me. Other than that, nope!
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#38474 - 05/12/10 03:32 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: spinosaurus01]
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As i can see - non of you have actual re-grates. A true sign of a strong personality, a sign of a satanist. But i would say that your life is on the line? or the life of a very important person? would you make the change? will you have re-grates if you fuck-up and make someone important to you dead?
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#38478 - 05/12/10 04:18 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: 6Satan6Archist6]
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Its a fine point of view, but that 18 year old Germans ass still haunts me. Logic out the window...I regret it.
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#38482 - 05/12/10 08:31 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: 6Satan6Archist6]
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Do I regret anything?

An interesting question, and the only thing I can say is this;

If I could go back in time and change things, I would regret some of the things that have passed.

But that is impossible to achieve. So I regret NOTHING.
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#38585 - 05/15/10 05:55 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: DistroyA]
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There are a few things in my life if I could go back and change I would.Not not all of them bad things, some would have made me quit happy if they had happened lol. But do I regret them now, no, why should I?, it would be a waist of time and wouldnt change anything setting around worrying about them. All we can do is Live and Learn like others have mentioned.

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#38603 - 05/16/10 01:23 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: DemonicDaddy666]
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Go back and change? nonono. I would be far from where I am in life had I not fucked up so much before
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#38638 - 05/17/10 01:37 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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Every now and then I delete useless files from my computer, toss out garbage and other things that have become useless, sever ties or ignore people who have become a liability. Perhaps if I didn't do these things I would regret it later. Being aware of my surroundings and making the appropriate adjustments quickly, decisively, without remorse or second guessing keeps my life relatively free from regrets. Perhaps I may feel bad about losses that occur beyond my control, but these are not necessarily regrets. Its just life's experiences telling me that I am not always in total control of everything.
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#38862 - 05/28/10 01:59 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Satansfarm]
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I have many regrets. Most stemming from a time in my life filled with self-doubt and clouded by lies from people who I foolishly thought were going to help me figure shit out. It was a very slow and gradual process, not started intentionally, that showed me that I was the only person who knows what is best for me. In that respect my regrets are many.

As for social fuck-ups... I was just having fun and really, no one got hurt. People need to get over things. I need to get over little petty things that happen in social situations that I really don't care about. Sometimes other people witnessing an embarrassing moment artificially amplifies the importance of it. But really, we're all just trying to get our nickel's worth on the carousel.

Would I change anything? No. I have finally started to figure out all of the shit swimming around inside of me. To try and start with a different set of cards makes my guts crawl just hypothetically. I know what I need to work on and I know what I can never change. Beyond that it is just a matter of courage behind my decisions.
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#39318 - 06/14/10 04:48 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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I gave this topic some wandering and thinking before answering.
I can honestly say I have made choices in my life I regret I did. Some of these choices are past actions which and in, hopefully, no way will or shall haunt me due the time-span between my mental state now and back then.
There are some other choices I regret and can have an influence on my future (such as appearing in some articles concerning Satanism in a fairly known Belgian magazine). A choice which probably will make it harder for me when trying to achieve a "higher" status. (While I dedicate my life in the fields of science (promotion, awareness, advancement,..) and in search of a better understanding of the world and everything around it, it is also a certain choice for me to be made to get into politics as soon as the situation or choice is offered/ happens.)

I am aware my life will probably be as that of an average Joe, but I have the tendency of being a hard-worker and I hope the combined gift of hard-working and wit will increase my position in life and society in its broadest sense.

I still regret certain choices, but the lessons learned are perhaps the most shiny ones and give the ability not to suffer and boil in self-pity.
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#50599 - 03/08/11 04:48 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: XiaoGui17]
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Poison eh? well pass me the poison and I shall drink it to spite you in that I'd take it for you!

Xiao, I can see that you have adapted. Obviously by taking care of ourselves in intelligent and positive narcissism (want the best, give the best) and being intolerant of parasitic narcissists is common sense. I refuse to bend to the disappointments I have encountered and continue to let others define themselves as half assed and gutless. What do I mean? well being truly selfish for me means that I don't lie to myself nor make compromise, this means that I choose to be excessively romantic and all for devotion for the sake of the following things:

1. I know that I personally get obsessively motivated to do things without effort when I am doing it all for a beautiful woman, I work hard to make my partner feel as good as I for all purposes both intrinsic and mundane which is all part of romance, especially when plans go wrong or silly, this is romantic.

2. A sense of black humour goes a long way when you look at somebody who has failed you, disappointed you. I see a personal victory because in putting in an honest effort the person who lets you down is quickly found out to be not good enough for you. It has never been about compromise for me but to simplify things, disregarding any notions of conceited understanding related to ego, and just showing affection and acts of support without wanting sweet fuck all back but to see a lady smile. There is no need to formalise things it's simple.

3. By being open and trusting of people, especially lovers, and giving all you have, this is the only way to get the whole cake as nobody with passion wants to fuck another person who is in two minds about the whole thing, it would be a hollowing and materialistic act, unless they are gutless and seek comfort in casual relations with anyone just to feel complete and comforted like most of society who demonise narcissism.

The subtext object behind my defiance is to cultivate misanthropy, a lucid intelligence which you can't develop with acceptance of the mediocre. Humans are merely something for me to out do and ridicule because they are gutless and settle for less than they deserve.

I regret not being evil enough in my younger years. I was way too aggressive instead of being methodical and sinister. Yet I refuse to learn and be mature when it comes to passion, by downplaying romance people are placing mediocrity, and acceptance of it, with what makes an adaptable realist. It's like saying you have accepted that fact that there is no other people as devoted and loving as you are and regarding the whole world as a give and take relationship, how bleak, hollow and methodical.

I don't feel emotional pain is something to fear, emotional pain is real and stimulating and part of being human that feels for another, by carefully treading the waters you will never experience the pleasure or pain in full but a distanced view of it. Who the hell wants to be balanced and rational when it comes to relationships!

I laugh at cowards who preciously guard their emotions with rationale.

Women make me irrational and I will never regret it! Pass me the fucking poison!
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#50600 - 03/08/11 05:18 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Hegesias]
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 Originally Posted By: Hegesias
Who the hell wants to be balanced and rational when it comes to relationships!


After one too many hangovers after the sweet intoxication of infatuation, a great many people may yearn for a little reason in their love lives. Of course, wanting to be rational and achieving that aim are two different things. Passion is addictive, and hard as hell to abstain from, as it's internal.

You remind me of Dwight from Sin City. You have the same passionate chivalrous instinct. If you tangle with the wrong woman, she could exploit that. If you haven't read Dame to Kill For, I would recommend that you do.
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#50603 - 03/08/11 05:38 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: XiaoGui17]
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It all depends on the awareness of what's going on. Petty mind games just get ignored by me because those people think they are funny, they are funny, but not for the reasons they think they are, however I'm the sort who runs around like a headless chicken for a real bitch. Why? because intense and demanding bitches are especially lovely because they expect a lot, it's no big effort at all to please a beautiful women if you are getting the special prise with your goddess in the bedroom.

I regret being cowardly with my emotions years back, by this I mean that I was so hard and cruel, distant and shallow. I am more selfish nowadays though... contradictory? No. Why? Because selfishness is not shallowness. I was always deep but not knowledgeable enough to get my intrinsic demands met.

Women may do as they please. Cheat, betray whatever, if the man is satisfying them enough they don't feel the need to stray. Simple. I know from proof. I even encourage my partner to look at other men and make sarcastic suggestions because I am arrogant and know she loves me in her own way (she can be jealous, because she is dark and angry). I let it be known what I would like to do to certain beautiful women I might see, not to be cruel but to be sarcastic because my partner knows I am doomed to her really and I find it more relaxing to be honest. Other females are physically attractive but it does not mean I will act on it because the female I have now is my ideal.

It will all come back on me in the end if I become lazy and take my partner for granted (this is why marriage is a fallacy), but people will say "You shouldn't have trusted her" and to this I will say "correct, I never did", Why? because I believe that intimacy is something you have to work with every day and I associate societies notion of trust with disgusting comfort seeking and blind faith, very different to empathy, motivation and stimulation which are natural bonds.
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#50770 - 03/10/11 06:11 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Caliga]
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Rgrets? Only one, that I did not return to my furrier apprenticeship after my health problems got sorted. Mistakes? More than I can count and I treasure each one of them, they all are lessons to me, some I even managed to learn from. Resentments? A few, nothing that can keep me down and I am working on them.

I like to make my own mistakes and even when warned of risks and dangers like to jump head-on into the deep and cold. When I was 15 years old I planned a bicycle trip to the Netherlands with a friend. My father, knowing he was not able to forbid me anything since I was age 13, tried to talk me out of it, telling me all the horrors of his past experiences with biking trips. My reply to his stories was blunt and short 'Your experiences, not mine'. Sure enough, almost everything he told me about that could go wrong, did go wrong, from the turning of the weather to the blown tire and the lack of money and food to the giving up halfway through. Was his warming in vain? Did his words fall on deaf ears? Not at all. I might have despite his warnings driven myself headfirst and kneedeep into a pile of shit, but thanks to his stories and experiences I had a shovel to dig myself out. In retrospect, it was a valuable lesson. Not that I should listen to my parents, but that other people's failingss are never a substitute and often a preperation to one's own. But that doesn't mean I am opposed to the idea of following or being a Mentor.
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#51199 - 03/18/11 01:38 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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 Originally Posted By: exadust
I like to see how people view their lives! It's interesting to listen to some people's excuses and how they justify their actions in certain situations. For me my only regret is trying to be acceptable to my family, I see that they only wanted to control me because no one else could, and I let them because at that time I thought that I owed them something!

If anyone would like to share feel free!!!!


Regrets come with life as you get older, if you had no regrets you would be perfect and probably never born .. So far no one is perfect and regrets can be fixed with enough effort coming from the involved peers if there was actual wrongdoing by means of controlling you.
Being acceptable for your Family .. How demanding are they, did they do you wrong that it had severe impact or? Can't imagine that every relative is demanding overly much or rejecting you.. If they do, you can't really speak of Family as Family doesn't really abuse you in such a way, it may leave a gap between you and them... Ofcourse they may always find out at a later stage who was wrong (regrets anyone)? Admitting is not always the best feature in humans, some do it rather by dialogue or simple diffusion .. Which can have little effect and creates estrangement and in some cases a total lack of care or eventually disbanded ties (which no one really likes at some point).
It's dishonesty that guides you to truth (with a trick from time to time).

After all Exadust, reconsider if you should care about your regret to be acceptable for your family, it may be important in your future and family is important none the less together with people who have good intentions. Not taking away that some regrets shouldn't be regretted.
To reply you on justification of regrets or mistakes and admitting to that .. Everyone has made faults in life and i'm not afraid to admit such accordingly.. Some faults in life happen on purpose too, everything for a reason i suppose.
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#51806 - 03/27/11 09:57 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Silencer]
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The only things i in some way might regret is when i have not taken the opportunity to indulge myself in the pleasures of life to the full extend i probably could have. What i mean is, leting great pleasures of some sort pass me by. Otherwise i generaly have no regret- it all made me the person i am today wich i am gratefull of.
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#51931 - 03/30/11 07:22 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: Ace Azazel]
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To say I have 'no' regrets would be a lie but all the regretfull things have shaped and formed my life and who I am today. Theres a couple of women I'd wish that I have plowed but the biggest is letting a woman break my heart with another man and taking her back because I wanted to be a good guy and forgive her. Never again will I ever do that. I need to change my outlook on puting others before me as well.
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#51933 - 03/30/11 10:08 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: exadust]
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I don't have any real regrets in my life. I have made dumb decisions, but that is not really the same thing. The only time I regret a decision is when I do not listen to myself. It seems that any time I try to make someone else happy, or go against my judgement, I am never happy with the outcome. As I get older I have gotten much better at blocking out external influences and just rely on myself. I believe in my own knowledge and abilities above all else, it is foolish to rely on others for your life decisions.
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#51934 - 03/30/11 10:13 AM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: SPEEDEMON]
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That is so true, every guy has some women that they should have plowed. I can think of at least three or four off the top of my head. Usually I had the opportunity but I was with a girl that I didn't even like to begin with. I don't really consider not banging a few girls a life time regret. When I think of this thread topic, I am thinking major life changing events. However you make a good point, our decisions have shaped and formed our lives. So if we are happy with our lives, what is there to regret?
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#52879 - 04/13/11 07:03 PM Re: I want to know if anyone has any regrets? [Re: William Wright]
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Hindsight is 20/20, yes?

There is alot I could have done differently. Maybe I could have taken a few more chances here and there, not counting the ones I did take, and failed. But even failures are opportunities to learn a important lesson about making choices, and accepting the outcome of what you did, win or lose.

I think everyone can agree going to college/school after High school is an important step, but how many people actually do what they set out to learn how to do in college or a trade school? Those who do succeed in working in their chosen field aren't always happy either. The path they thought they wanted to explore has no advancement, and is unrealistic to the lifestyle they find they want to lead at the current state of their lives now.

I took a lot of chances, to advance myself. I excelled in study, testing and placement in the career I wanted to find myself in. Unfortunately, unforeseen medical issues ended that career when it was just beginning. Through no fault of my own, I took loans out, put myself through a top school for my chosen discipline and placed at the top of my class. But now I am at the old job I had. Looking back on a path I might not have taken had I had some foresight into what might have taken place. I would have chosen a different school.

However...

The school I paid for was the dream career I always wanted. Even that minute experience will last the rest of my life. I have stories to tell, experiences to share. More importantly, it keeps you grounded and cautious to possibilities which might parallel your old path.

Looking back I dont regret the good and the bad. Love, work, school. It all made me who I am. Experience, however bad makes you more then the sum of the parts you were created from. It makes you unique. And being unique, and different is what makes us, Satanists...so special.

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