#41079 - 07/30/10 04:38 AM
Heroes
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straif
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Registered: 07/20/10
Posts: 20
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"The Hero is just the belated martyr, the king is the devourer."
For a long time this phrase has been my mantra, and for a long time it didn't help me... I kept being the hero and i got nowhere.
But this week has been gracious to me, as I have finally broken free of the horrible role of the hero.
A friend of mine decided to spring her pregnancy on me (well, not exactly "friend", but not quite a "vampire"). No, it is not mine as she is 4 months pregnant and she and I have not had sex since... november at the earliest. She asked if i could A: "beat up the father" or B: help her with the child.
Now, my entire life I was the kind of person who would jump at the chance to help someone in this situation, but with my budding career and complete lack of shits to give, I told her "you made your bed, now lay in it".
This will not seem like a huge accomplishment for most within this community, I know. However for me, this is something I would not have done 4 months ago. I have never been one to focus all attention on how things would affect me and say "fuck it" to the issues of vampires.
I feel that this is another step in the left direction for myself, as I have been choosing to focus on my own goals rather than being helping those who will not help themselves...
if anyone has any stories on when they realized they no longer had to be the hero, please share.
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#41178 - 08/01/10 01:25 AM
Re: Heroes
[Re: Lamar]
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straif
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Registered: 07/20/10
Posts: 20
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TV, I'd rather have a candy bar than donate money to some non-profit will most likely use 70% of their earnings to pay for their expenses. Plus dark chocolate reese's cups are fantastic!
I really like your take on heroes though. A lot of people thought Draco Vlad was a hero for saving Romania from the Turks, and he's the basis for "Dracula".
The term hero is certainly subjective when you get down to the nitty gritty of it.
Jake999, so you're taking more of a be a hero by living your own way and helping for the sake of helping, rather than helping because you have some bullshit idea implanted to "help everyone you can because that makes the world a better place" stance... or am I off by a long shot?
(sorry, I'm just curious)
Lamar, so long as you learn from your "mistakes" then they're not mistakes, ya know?
Finally understanding (really understanding, not just being aware of their existence) what psychic vampires are helps you to fight them more than anything else could.
So congrats!
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#41230 - 08/01/10 04:46 PM
Re: Heroes
[Re: straif]
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Michael A.Aquino
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Registered: 09/28/08
Posts: 1247
Loc: San Francisco, CA, USA
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My goodness, what a bunch of grumpies. 
I can't imagine life without heroes. They do nice things for other people, animals, the environment despite all odds, obstacles, setbacks, and discouragements. Self-glorification is incidental, often meaningless to them. What a tougher, duller, drearier slog life would be without them.
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#41236 - 08/01/10 07:25 PM
Re: Heroes
[Re: straif]
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SODOMIZER
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Registered: 07/04/10
Posts: 61
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I told her "you made your bed, now lay in it".
This will not seem like a huge accomplishment for most within this community, I know.
No, it's a huge first step: you cut yourself free from social guilt.
The real hero is the one who creates, not the one who self-sacrifices so the irresponsible can keep destroying.
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#41252 - 08/02/10 12:05 AM
Re: Heroes
[Re: SODOMIZER]
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MatthewJ1
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Registered: 10/28/09
Posts: 529
Loc: Australia
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Yes, I have my heroes. They have certainly changed over time though.
I always think there is at least one person out there who can inspire you in some way. All great artists, thinkers, and leaders inspire me to some extent.
Recent heroes: Brooks D. Kubik, Steve Justa, Dr. Ken Leistner, and Bradley J. Steiner. Yes, these guys are weight training legends. Straight forward people.
The heroics of Kubik, Justa, Steiner and Leistner are somewhat different from the standard. These guys are some of the hard asses of training so they are promoting real effort, tremendous self discipline, the building of real world strength and power, belief and motivation.
Yes, I have had some heroes for sure.
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#41353 - 08/03/10 02:39 AM
Re: Heroes
[Re: MatthewJ1]
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straif
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Registered: 07/20/10
Posts: 20
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Well thank you for the clarity, Sodomizer (never thought I'd be thanking anyone with that name, haha).
since then I've pretty much been able to say no to a lot of BS and get a lot more out of situations where I was helping. Not listening to the little man in my head has already helped out quite a bit.
MatthewJ1, I look at a lot of body builders as people to respect. After all they are devoting their entire lives to being exactly what they want to be. I myself have taken to a pretty heavy regiment... I'm a little bit short (5'5) but I feel like a giant all the time, so I feel that if I can get up to 210 or so I will be as big as I feel inside. I'm at 188 right now.
are you yourself a body builder?
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#41445 - 08/04/10 03:54 PM
Re: Heroes
[Re: MatthewJ1]
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straif
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Registered: 07/20/10
Posts: 20
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Sounds right up my alley! thanks for ideas.
I've been an avid practitioner of Parkour for a number of years so most of the lifting I already do is centered around how to build much more useful muscle (weighted pullups, dips, etc.).
Dinosaur Training sounds pretty fantastic though.
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#41448 - 08/04/10 07:01 PM
Re: Heroes
[Re: straif]
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Fist
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Registered: 08/31/07
Posts: 1007
Loc: B'mo Cautious MF
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The problem is your are confusing hero with martyr or 'enabler'.
In the West, our social meme of hero stems mostly from ancient tribal customs of the great European tribes. In the English speaking world we take most of our traditions from the Anglo-Saxon ideals.
In our formal education, traditionally students were taught the Iliad an the Odyssey. The meme of Homeric Ethics has shaped much of the traditional Western world.
In more modern times, your average Western male has more in common with Alen Alda than Agamemnon or Ajax.
Personally, I choose to live my life by the warrior's ethos. As near as I can tell it is essentially the same in all cultures and is as ancient as any custom in human history.
if anyone has any stories on when they realized they no longer had to be the hero, please share.
Consider for a moment any axiom that is popular use today - particularly those found in youth culture. Now consider the advice of the 17th Century warrior sage Yamamoto Tsunetomo Samurai of the Saga-han:
"The Way of the Samurai is found in death. When it comes to either/or, there is only the quick choice of death. It is not particularly difficult. Be determined and advance. To say that dying without reaching one's aim is to die a dog's death is the frivolous way of sophisticates. When pressed with the choice of life or death, it is not necessary to gain one's aim. We all want to live. And in large part we make our logic according to what we like. But not having attained our aim and continuing to live is cowardice. This is a thin dangerous line. To die without gaining one's aim is a dog's death and fanaticism. But there is no shame in this. This is the substance of the Way of the Samurai. If by setting one's heart right every morning and evening, one is able to live as though his body were already dead, he gains freedom in the Way. His whole life will be without blame, and he will succeed in his calling."
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