#52226 - 04/05/11 05:36 PM
Bitten by a sheep.
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Vasiya
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Registered: 03/21/11
Posts: 8
Loc: Chicago
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Yesterday.. I was fired.
I was currently working privately for a lady- taking care of her bed ridden uncle for seven months. I have six years of experience in the medical field and I drive myself to be the best. To describe this lady is a typical leech. Starting drama at her PTA meetings at school, living off her sick uncle's money and house, just all around weak person.
Yesterday, I gave my boss a text.."It's payday and I need my check, I have a bill I have to pay and it's important"-- Also explaining to her I need bus money to even get to work.
She responded with comparing her problems to my own and how much more difficult it is for her. She then proceeded to fire me. -.-
I responded with a "sure thing" and thought to myself she is only cutting her own throat. I didn't think it was a big deal because I know I can get an even better job. Well....
Two minutes later she started texting my boyfriend's mom- I know right? How ridiculous.
She told her all a whole list of low lies such as.. Bringing my boyfriend over to her house and sleeping with him in her bed, not delivering medication to her uncle or giving him therapy, not feeding him or giving him fluids, refusing to work when she wants me to, Screaming at him. Of course, I know these are all filthy lies she was trying to hurt me with. What makes this worse is she started spreading them at this hospital I wanted to work at as to a few people I respect there. As it is nursing abuse is taken very seriously and it's hard to defend yourself when your the caregiver. My point is-
I learned by this experience of how low and dangerous the sheep can get... I just got bit. -,..,-
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#52874 - 04/13/11 06:11 PM
Re: Bitten by a sheep.
[Re: Vasiya]
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Czereda
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Registered: 03/14/11
Posts: 2090
Loc: Poland
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I'm sorry to hear that you lost your job. It must be difficult for you. Two years ago I gave up my job because of an unfair boss. I found another one which was worse-paid but more peaceful. My friends also had some unpleasant experience with their employers or co-workers. Generally, employers have more to say than employees so they often try to abuse their power.
If you are fired your self-esteem may suffer, even if it was not your fault. Some people are evil by nature but they do not see it due to their hypocrisy. Such people, if they are unwilling to pay money for your work, will try to humiliate you and spread untrue rumours about you, in order to justify their dishonest behaviour.
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#52880 - 04/13/11 08:10 PM
Re: Bitten by a sheep.
[Re: Vasiya]
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Asmedious
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Registered: 09/02/07
Posts: 1786
Loc: New York
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Being a nurse myself, I definitely know how seriously false allegations can affect us. Unfortunately it is a tool that unscrupulous people are very happy to employ because due to the scared shitless managers all allegations of neglect and abuse, no matter how ridiculous they may be, are taken absolutely seriously, and we are guilty without a shadow of a doubt, unless we are able to prove otherwise.
A few weeks ago it was brought to my attention by my direct supervisor and my nursing supervisor that some Nursing Assistants have complained that I was fucking off too much on the night shift (which I was forced into working) and that I spend too much time watching T.V.
Being that I don’t give too shits about the job itself (although I do take my nursing practice seriously) I responded that I do not spend too much time watching TV.....I spend just the right amount of time doing it, and basically to leave me the hell alone and to only bother me in the future if there is concern regarding the nursing care that I provide; which I feel is damn good.
Then today my nursing manager approached me to tell me that she has heard “from people,” that I have greatly improved, I am helping out, blah blah fucking blah.
I responded that I am doing EXACTLY what I have been doing all along and haven’t changed anything and to please stop bothering me in regards to the opinions of the nursing assistants because pro or con I don’t give a shit. She walked away pissed off, but the fact remains that I provide quality care and that is all that matters.
However I made it very clear that if anyone attacks the nursing care that I provide, thereby endangering my license (we have to report even unfounded allegations when renewing our license in my state) that they better have tangible proof to back it up because I will hold everyone involved legally responsible for defaming my professional character.
Yet everyone is surprised that experienced nurses like me are leaving the field in droves, that there is a nursing shortage in this country which is almost at crisis levels even in this economy, and that younger people are not interested in getting into the field.
As for your situation, the old hag might think that she can ruin your reputation but what she is actually doing is letting the word out that nurses should stay away from her. I’ve seen this happen a few times before in the private care sector. Most often then not their attempts back fires in the long run.
By the way, I'm desperetly trying to get out of nursing. I've gone as far as applying at the local supermarket for a job, while mainly looking for a truck driving position (have a class A license).
Edited by Asmedious (04/13/11 08:16 PM)
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#52917 - 04/14/11 10:25 AM
Re: Bitten by a sheep.
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Fnord
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Registered: 01/11/10
Posts: 2086
Loc: Texas
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We've all been there... you got bitten by someone who'll bite again... she won't change.
I think that's the major 'take away' of the situation. Vasiya, you probably feel hurt because you know you've provided the best care she's ever likely to get. The truth is, it wouldn't matter if you were Florence Nightingale, working for the woman without getting paid. She would still find cause to complain because powerless people do their best to drag down everyone else (as evidenced by her actions).
It's not personal and it's not at all related to the care you've provided. More likely, it's due to the fact that you wouldn't jump when she said jump or that you failed to appreciate the grand opportunity she was giving you by allowing you to care for her uncle (late pay and all).
This will turn out better for you. I've had this kind of thing happen to me several times over my career. It sucks, but it puts a little knot of awareness in your belly that ultimately makes you better. Now that I have my own businesses we either charge these kind of people twice what everyone else pays or we 'fire' them as clients. At the 9-5 I'm still working (just two more years!), I've learned to cover my own butt obsessively so that when I'm challenged I can lay down the smackdown. One or two times doing that earns you a reputation but not many friends (they're either wary or afraid). Anyway, sorry, I'm rambling (happens after 40).
Both you and Shea show tremendous signs of understanding the big picture at an early age. Personally, I got my ass kicked (figuratively) a lot when I was your age. By all appearances, you two will avoid that somewhat harsher road. Never let them stop you from excelling and never let them level your playing field.
Finally, I'm not sure what Jake is calling Dolma, but if it's stuffed bell peppers (like in the Persian culture) that could well be some of the best food on the planet!
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#52922 - 04/14/11 10:59 AM
Re: Bitten by a sheep.
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Fnord
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Registered: 01/11/10
Posts: 2086
Loc: Texas
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I'll differ slightly from Fnord and say it is personal, but only for that lady (the client who fired Vasiya).
I did word that badly. I meant that it wasn't personal in the way that it could have been anyone (non specific) doing any quality of work and the woman would likely have been equally dis satisfied... ie ya just can't please some people.
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#52948 - 04/14/11 02:23 PM
Re: Bitten by a sheep.
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Jake999
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Registered: 11/02/08
Posts: 2230
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[quote=Jake999]
Finally, I'm not sure what Jake is calling Dolma, but if it's stuffed bell peppers (like in the Persian culture) that could well be some of the best food on the planet!
Fnord: Dolma (or Dolmasi) are stuffed grape leaves, usually stuffed with rice and pine nuts and sometimes berries. GREAT eats!!!
Here's Ala Turka's page with pics and their menu...
http://www.alaturkachicago.com/About_Us.html
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